You Are Not Alone

In the past two posts, I have been talking about my trip to Lagos and the lessons I learnt from it. Life is full of lessons, you know, and it takes your love for life for you to be able to notice the lessons it flashes you and make good use of them. As important as it is to be aware of these lessons, we also need to be diligent at the use of them. Get this: it’s not what you don’t have that limits you, it’s what you have but don’t know how to use. There are no better ways to use these lessons than to take immediate action at applying it in our lives and other places applicable. The story still continues and the lessons keep flowing. Borrowing from the words of my mentor, empty your cup and let this post fill it. Let’s roll!

An Important Discovery

The journey to the top is not an easy one. Achieving your dream could mean doing what you have never done before or even doing what you naturally don’t like to do. Getting what you desired out of life is not always fun-filled.

Here is why I am sounding like this. I really never knew what the trek had in stock for me when I started it – It was damn long and difficult. I never wouldn’t have imagined in my life that I will walk that long. As I think about how everything went again, I think my main motivation for doing all I have done despite how stressful they were comes down to the fact that I really felt it strongly in my mind that If I was not at the seminar then I was nowhere – this was my driving force. Getting to the top might not be easy but if you have got a driving force, you will surely make it through – it might just take time. Don’t let this discourage you: nothing good comes easy. With patience and determination, you will make it. Throw your mind across the bar and you will definitely find your body on the other side of the bar. More than all these, I discovered that climbing a wall that seems the tallest will be a lot easier with the aid of a ladder – this is the main point I want to emphasize in this post.

The Leverages

According to Microsoft Encarta Dictionaries (2008), a leverage is something that has power to get things done – power over other people. It is especially something that gives an advantage but is not referred to openly. In my own words, it is something that enhances your efficiency and eases the stress in delivery of a particular task. Your journey to the top might get overwhelming but if you leverage or get a help, it will surely become easier than expected. This was rang in my subconscious when I noticed at a point in the trek that I could get a bike to take me over to where I would be able to find my way and the journey might become even faster than I imagined. I got a bike and indeed it made the journey faster and less stressful. I got over this hurdle and yet another one surfaced again.

I got a ride from a co-participant at the seminar while heading home after the seminar and right on the third mainland bridge, his tire got punctured and we were there with a flat tire and wondering how we were going to fix the “shit” that got punctured. He’s got an extra tired but how to fix it was what we were still imagining when two men showed up (they actually help out stranded vehicles on the bridge for money). They were a ready help and we were so relieved to have them fix the tire for us. We leveraged on their ability and we got out of there in no-time.

My Word For You

I already said this that your journey to success might get overwhelming but if you leverage or get a help, it will surely become easier than expected. You must understand that a help keeps you going at a point where you are rather supposed to be stranded. It takes two to tango. Some ideas become world-class when more than one head cook them. There cannot be anything better than me supporting you when you lift it. The journey to the top is faster and more exciting when we move hand-in-hand. It would rather be foolish to hesitate to seek for a help when you can get it and it seem the only option left.

I need your constructive advice on this blog. Drop it as a comment. See you in the next post.

The story still continues!

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Get Out Of The Bus

This is a sequel to my last post where I talked about my journey to Lagos and the lessons I learnt on the way. I already emphasized in the previous post that it’s not about the condition you find yourself but how you manage yourself in this conditions will determine your success or failure. That set-back can be to your advantage if you decide to turn it around to your advantage. If you’ve not read the post, click here to read it. I suggest you read it before this.

Now, to the business of the day! The unforeseen obstacle on my way was a traffic jam. I was held up in it for close to two hours until I decided that if I was going to leave that spot early enough, it was up to me. I needed to find a means to leave that spot. We couldn’t have hired the world’s strongest man to carry the bus in which I was seated and scale us through the traffic. That’s not in any way possible and that would have even been the easiest way to compound our problems. Instead, I did something that might sound stupid.

During our stay at that spot, we got the information that the traffic jam is not likely to be cleared in the next imaginable hour. Some even said they have been there for more than six hours. “So terrible!” you said? That was exactly what I thought to myself. Does it mean I will be at a spot for hours and end up missing an important seminar? God forbid!

In a bid to get a fresh air and free myself from the stuffy air in the bus, I got out of the bus. While outside the bus, I had a feel of how terrible the situation was. I noticed I couldn’t see the end of the pile of vehicles on the road. All hope of getting any further seemed to be lost.

Suddenly, my understanding came to the fact that if I was held in there, it’s neither the fault of the government nor the bus driver that took that road but my fault. Does it sound funny to you? You don’t seem to be able to understand how it is my fault.

I knew I had got a choice to make; maybe to stay there for hours or leave immediately. At this point it dawned on me that if I have got to leave that spot and move forward, it’s up to me. My mind was made up to leave this spot at all cost. I saw that nothing was holding my legs back from moving forward. The wheels of the vehicles were the ones held back from moving but not my own natural wheel- my legs.

At the birth of this thought, what was I waiting for again? I got my legs to action and decided to walk myself out of the traffic jam. This sounds pretty cool to your ears but it was a tough decision.

Why have I taken time to write this epistle? I love you and want your progress. I need to ring it to your ears so loud that you are definitely at that point because you allowed yourself to be at that point. Nothing happens to you in life without your consent. Nigeria or whichever country is what it is today because you and I permitted it. Your financial status is at that same spot because you never took the bold step to get to the next level. I took a bold step less than a year ago to step up my personal life and it is what you are enjoying today.

Get your mind out of the bus. Get your mind out the present situations and you’ll see yourself on the other side in bliss. You are engineered for progress and not set-backs.

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Lessons from the Road to Lagos

I had a long time on the internet last night and now I am up again to do that which I love to do-blogging to inspire you. I got great and tremendous comments from the readers of my posts on this blog and I must from my heart appreciate them for giving me their feedbacks. I must quickly drop this now before I get going for the day.

I was on a trip to attend a seminar at a neighbouring state, precisely Lagos state and I can categorically tell you that this is the most stressful journey I have ever made. It was like hell for me. Everything about the journey just seemed to be falling in the wrong place. At the end of the journey, I was so tired…I thought I was going to get a fever. In this post, I will relate how the journey went and the lessons I learnt from it.

The journey started early in the morning at Ibadan (a city in Nigeria where I live) at about 7 o’clock and the day looked so beautiful. I took a public transport and it took off after about 30 minutes of loading. I particularly liked the idea of the journey starting very early so that I would get to the venue of the seminar early as well. It was supposed to be a 1 ½ -hour journey and considering that, I thought I was going to get to my destination at least 30 minutes early, which was my plan. The seminar was slated to start by 10 o’clock and it will be interesting to let you know that I spent close to 4 hours on the journey against my plan and I ended up almost missing the seminar. As a matter of fact, I got there when the seminar was about ending. So painful…uhn? It was some drastic decisions that I took during the journey that made me not even spend more than that time on the journey.

Unforeseen obstacles on our way to achieving our dreams

Let me point out here as an insight that things might not go the way we want or intend that they should go. Situations might turn around against us in the pursuit of our dreams for whatever reason. Our plans might not work out fine but that definitely is not the end of the road for whatever pursuit we might have embarked upon. I have said it in this blog times without number that the obstacles on our way to success are not to keep us away or discourage us but to let us prove how badly we want to succeed. Don’t you think if you really want to succeed or achieve that dream of yours scaling the obstacle or crushing it will be so easy to do? Yeah! That’s it! The road to success is decorated with so many obstacles and failures and how successful you are will be dependent on how willing you are to overcome the obstacles and failure. It really is not about the condition-maybe good or bad but how well you are able to manage yourself in it.

Here is a tip, in every unfavourable condition you find yourself, there is definitely a way out. All you need to just do is decide that you will take action and take responsibility for the change of the condition. If your mind is made up for a change, your condition is also on its way to change.

Find out how I made my way out of the terrible condition I found myself in the next post!

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Real Life Questions.

Wow! I have had a wonderful day. I have not had any particular rest since morning but nevertheless I have enjoyed my day. I slept late at around the third hour of the day. You ask, “Why? , I was busy on the phone with a good friend and we were relating ideas on writing, blogging, business, life (now and in the future) and so on. I loved it because I got to encourage him and correct him on some things he was doing wrong. In a way, I made an impact which I know that later in life he will always remember that moment for good. I mustn’t forget he commended me on my blog and I got encouraged too. Iron sharpens iron, you know.

My post today will be trashing out issues on how you and I have been living our lives, how we are living our lives and how we should continue to live our lives. Life is good for those who know the pathway. I must note here, however, that a good or successful life is not based on the amount of riches you are able to gather or how great your wealth is, but rather on the amount of smiles you are able to put on people’s faces.

A lot of us just live life the way it comes. We never bother about where it all started, where it is and where it will end. We give no thought to the fact that as we move from one step to another and days roll by, our history is written – an autobiography, at that. I am here to tell you that with your hand (your actions); the history of your life is written.

I want you to take some minutes to imagine that you are attending the burial of yourself and people are testifying of how you spent your life. What do you think they will say? Are you sure they will not be happy that you have gone? Now, imagine yourself being given the opportunity to read your own eulogy at your burial, what would you like people to ear?  I know you will read the best eulogy that has never been read to anyone to yourself because I am sure you will want everybody to feel like you lived a good live. Come to think of it, “Is the kind of life you are living now similar to what you will want to be read in your eulogy?” If you say, “No” why? And if you say, “Yes” then I humbly bow to congratulate you. In my opinion, a good and successful life must successfully answer the questions below;

What do I live for? This questions what you are doing with my life. Do you live to make the world a better place or to make it worse than you met it? Is the memorable impact you are making in the lives of the people you meet daily positive or negative? I need you to understand that greatness is not defined on what you possess but how you reach out to others; not your affluence but your influence; not what you can get but what you can give.

What do I want to be remembered for? By the time you depart to the world beyond, what great achievement will be mentioned against your name? Will people even miss you at all or rather they start to rejoice like they have done to some in this country, Nigeria.  Will your life be full of impact or void of impact?

These “life” questions must be sincerely answered if you desire to live a life full of relevance and impact. A wonderful man, Fela Durotoye once said that you need to be sincere to your future than to your past. Start today to mould a great and impactful future for yourself. It takes one step at a time, so simple. Remember, men don’t decide their future, they decide their habits and their habits decide their future. In other words, the change starts from your habits (your daily activities) and then influences your future.

I know you and I will make the world a better place and be remembered for good.

Top Secret Nigerians Don’t Know

A lot seems to be happening everywhere. There are confusions here and there. Darkness seems to have engulfed the sea and it’s deep. In our eyes nothing seems to be working the way it is supposed to work. Unemployment here, war there, bankruptcy, epidemic, crime and the rest of them seem to have soaked us to the neck. Everything has virtually gone out of control. Now, saying we are helpless looks like an understatement. We need someone to fix the puzzle for us. The world needs a solution.

By the way, this seems like a good start for this post and I think the best ever in this blog…uhn? My head is turning right now! And I am sure it’s going to be fun all the way. So, sit back, relax and watch me pilot you into the deep…sorry the sky. This post is going to be intimating you on how these looming problems can be solved and you will start to enjoy a blissful life like I do over here.

It is certain we all need a solution to this crisis all over the place. We have looked over onto governments are personalities for solutions but as we see it, it has not been forthcoming. Instead of things getting better, it is rather getting worse. This has to stop! Things “must-to” get better. Then who do we look to again? God? Yeah! God doesn’t fail. He has already provided the solutions. It’s just that we are yet to find where he kept. Then where has he kept it? Yeah…I think he kept it right there. You ask, “Where?” It’s right there in you! Don’t be surprised, the solution lies in you and you need not look anywhere again. Look inwards and you will find it.

Let me make you understand because I know you might be a little confused. Zig Ziglar, one of the great motivators in the world today said, “You can have everything you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want”. He also said that you must “Be” before you can do and “Do” before you “Have”. This is what all his quotes meant; to get the solution you are looking for; you must first be the solution. In other words, you are the solution you are looking for. I put it to you that you must first be a solution provider and do what solution providers do before the solution is attracted to you. It’s a simple principle of magnetism that to have something, you must first become what that thing is attracted to. For example, to have wealth, you must first become what wealth is naturally attracted to.

Check yourself, what values are you able to create where you work, reside or school? What I mean is that; how beneficial are you to people around you? Are you able to make a memorable and positive impact on people you meet every day? If you want the world to be a better place you first need to be a better person. Nigeria won’t become one the most desirable countries in the world if you don’t become one of the most desirable person one can ever meet. The key is in your hand and how good you use it will be evident over you.

Solution providers are value creator. They are never tired of looking for what they can do to make the world a better place to live. They are freedom fighters. They are ready to give all they have and sacrifice their pleasure just to see their neighbor smile. The interesting thing is that people like this despite their generosity never lack anything. This is the way it works; as you provide solutions to problems, you are indirectly creating value which accumulates wealth for you thereby bringing prosperity over you. If you are then the type that never provides solutions to any problem, you automatically create no value and no wealth is accumulated to you which now eventually gives poverty the right to over ride you instead of prosperity. I pray this will never be your portion. However, prayer has little to do here because most of the work is left to you.

I want you to change your perception to problems and you should now start to love them. Love to solve them and you will experience tremendous fulfillment and happiness in your life. As for me, I love problems because in it lies the key to greatness. What of you? Let me know-drop it as a comment.

I will leave you with these; “Those that left their footprints on the sand of time were one time or the other solution providers”– seunKILANKO

“How relevant you are is directly related to the solutions you are able to provide”– seunKILANKO

My friend, become the solution the world looks wants!

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